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Smile for the camera!!. Whether it's roasting or baltic outside, these photos will be cherished for years to come, look happy for your friend. You've been asked to play a very important role on the most important day of her life - enjoy it!!
Don’t wait for the bride to ask for help, offer it!Some people are just not good at asking for help because they don't want to put anyone out. If the bride says that she's getting ready to send out her invitations, ask her if she needs any help, sure she'd appreciate it!If the bride asks for help, help...
Be a good friend!To be a part of any wedding - on any level is very stressful. True friendships are made, and others are broken. I,myself have stood down from being a bridesmaid at a friend's wedding for various reasons.In the end, it ended our friendship, which broke my heart & to this day makes me sad. I remember thinking about her the day the wedding took place & shed a few tears. They were not tears of Joy for the Bride and Groom, but tears of sadness for the end of a friendship. So let that be a lesson to you ladies,Be honest about what you can and cannot do, how the bride really looks, what you like and don’t like (before the wedding day)....
Don’t complain about the cost!You've been asked to part with some of your hard earned cash ... don't complain about it when the time comes to part with it(as hard as this sometimes can be!) Be completely honest and upfront with the bride, especially about what you are willing to spend, if anything at all.Keep in mind that you have other costs besides the dress - shoes, hair, makeup, alterations etc.
Don’t complain on the wedding day, to anyone about anything!The only advice I can add would be for the bridesmaids NOT to complain about decisions that the bride/groom have made that does not effect them, eg. don't complain about the photographer's style, the flowers, etc Unless someone is being extremely difficult, disrespectful or rude PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE no complaining on the wedding day!
Help the bride in selecting your gown and accessories
Please let the bride know if you have any real needs (not preferences) when it comes to the dress and shoes, eg. "I can’t wear heels", "I need a gown that I can wear a proper bra with". If at all possible, accommodate the bride’s wishes!!
Before you accept the role of bridesmaid ask the bride what she expects of you and let her know what you can and can’t do...
If a bride has her heart set on a bridesmaid dress for you, give your opinion and if she still wants it…buy it and wear it with a smile
Keep in contact with the bride!When the bride requests dress fittings, rehearsals, sizes, general info, get back to her in a timely manner. Regular contact - just to check up - is much appreciated and valued. It is nice to not have to be the one to do the phoning/texting too..
It’s the bride’s day!Opinions & input during the planning stages are great but don’t push your ideas on the bride, she has the final say. The bride is the star of the show, so focus on her instead of worrying what you look like!!!
Be understanding!Take the high road (don't take it personally) & know that getting married is like being on some massive emotional roller coaster for the bride. She may be having to juggle 10 other people's opinions, as well as planning the BIG event, working, looking after a family, whatever. Cut her some slack! When the wedding is over, she will revert back to the friend you all know & love (hopefully!).
If you don’t know, ask!If you aren’t sure of what to do, where to be, what’s going on…just ask the bride.
Don’t take advantage!“I am paying for the dress, makeup, manicure, pedicure, putting her up for the week, picking her up/returning her to the airport 2 hours away. For that I get "I don't want to send invites for your hen party. Can't you just put them in with the wedding invites?" "I don't want to go to your mum's house to get measured for a dress, I don't like her" "Can't you take care of the hen night details?" .......Hello?!? Need I say more....
I hope this helps girlies & just remember - Of all the girls that the bride has met in her lifetime to date, you stand out above the rest- that's why YOU got the job!!!
Have a great Sat night & chat soon!
V x

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